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As a man goes into his later years, he may find a difference in the firmness of erections. Men over age 60 frequently have slightly less firm erections. By itself, this small change usually poses no problem. Older women, however, often have less vaginal lubrication, another natural result of aging. The combination of a slightly less firm penis with a drier vagina can make intercourse difficult. But a solution is readily at hand: use of a water-based lubricant. The problem we’re describing is definitely not impotence.

Unlike men in their mid-years who ejaculate with less force, some older men may find they have intercourse with no ejaculation at all. Some men are bothered by this change; for others, it’s of little consequence. The plus to this situation, of course, is that these men can enjoy intercourse for longer periods of time.

After ejaculation, the older man will lose his erection more quickly than he did in his younger years. A young man might find himself with an erection even after ejaculation, but this is certainly not typical of a man in his 50’s or older.

One change which comes naturally with age is especially significant. The time period between erections increases. Noticeably. Understandably, this is probably the most disturbing and unwanted change. For some men in their 60’s, it may be hours between erections, even with stimulation. For others, it may be days. There’s a lot of individual variation, but the general trend is more time between erections. This is normal and does not mean the man is impotent. Try thinking of this as a resting time from intercourse, but not from other types of sexual activity,

These changes appear gradually in healthy men, overtime. For some men, they come on so slowly they are hardly noticeable.

So, for the most part, these changes shouldn’t pose a problem for the well-informed man and his partner. And understanding how the penis becomes erect can actually add to your enjoyment—and that of your partner.

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What the majority of men don’t seem to understand is that during foreplay the progress from kissing and cuddling to caressing the breasts, nipples and clitoris is not only very exciting and pleasurable for a woman, and incidentally to most men, it is absolutely necessary for a woman’s arousal, and crucial to her pleasure and satisfaction. Without it, a woman is not sexually aroused or an uninhibited participant, and is not even physiologically ready. But, worse, after sexual intercourse she is unsatisfied and resentful and remains wide awake while her partner turns over and goes to sleep. Men and women are mismatched in this respect because a man is much more easily and quickly aroused, and reaches orgasm in a very short time in almost any situation. Is it any wonder that sex can end up being a battleground, very often of unspoken resentments and hostilities, and becomes more and more uninteresting and infrequent.

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The easiest way for a man to find out how a woman likes to be stimulated, and how much stimulation is necessary, is to study how women masturbate. Some women, however, especially those who may have guilty feelings about self-pleasuring, prefer to be masturbated by their partners. Many women do it at particular times, such as while they are menstruating, and keep it secret from their partners. Others may indulge in it routinely as a way of relieving sexual tension. Because direct and continued genital stimulation is so necessary to a woman’s orgasm, some women use self-masturbation as a way of guaranteeing that they reach a climax while having sexual intercourse.

In fact, since only about 30 percent of women achieve orgasm with intercourse but over 80 percent experience a climax with masturbation, orgasm by means of masturbation, rather than by sexual intercourse, should be regarded as the normal experience.

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1 Stand naked in front of a full-length mirror and take the time to examine your body carefully,

from head to toe as though you were seeing yourself for the first time. Use another mirror to

see yourself from the side or back.

2 Move around. Kneel, bend and sit with your legs apart, then together.

3 Concentrate on your best points; you are bound to have some. The shapeliness of your legs, the

length of your neck, high cheekbones, or dainty feet, for example.

4 Reconsider the features that you dislike and try to see them in a more positive light. For

instance, although you may think that you are fatter than the ideal, you may have a

Rubenesque physique that is attractive to men.

5 Using a hand mirror, and in the best possible light, examine your vagina. Identify your

different parts. In order to see and touch the clitoris properly, you will need to pull back the

hood of skin covering it. You can run your fingers along the inner and outer vaginal lips and

back along the area between the anus and vagina to find the more sensitive areas. Separate the

inner lips in order to explore the entrance to the vagina and inside.

6 When you have finished, take a warm bath. Soap your hands and explore your body with them,

noticing the different sensations you experience in all your body areas by changes in touch and

pressure.

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The “G” spot appears to be a small cluster of nerve endings, glands, ducts and blood vessels sited around a woman’s urethra, or urinary tract. This area cannot normally be felt when the woman is unaroused, only becoming distinguishable as a specific area during deep vaginal stimulation. When this happens it swells, sometimes very rapidly, and a small mass with distinct edges stands out from the vaginal wall. As it seems to have no organic function other than helping a woman achieve a high degree of sexual fulfilment and, at orgasm, can appear to “ejaculate” a clear liquid similar in composition to that created by the prostate, some experts think that the “G” spot is a rudimentary form of the male prostate gland.

The easiest way for a woman to find her “G” spot is to sit or squat, because lying down positions the relevant spot further away. First stimulating your “G” spot can feel like wanting to urinate, so it is a good idea to start your explorations while sitting on the toilet. Once your bladder is empty, you will know that the sensation is caused by the “G” spot, and not by having a full bladder.

Using your fingers, apply firm upward pressure on the front of the internal vaginal wall, perhaps pressing down simultaneously with the other hand on the outside of the abdomen. As it becomes stimulated, the spot should start to swell and will feel like a lump between the fingers inside and outside your vagina. Extremely pleasurable contractions may sweep through the uterus and you may experience a deep, satisfying orgasm, which will feel totally different from a clitoral orgasm.

At this point you may also find that you ejaculate a small amount of clear fluid from the urethra. This is not urine, despite its appearance.

Since your partner can reach the spot more easily, it may be more effective if he stimulates you. Lie down on a bed with two firm pillows underneath your hips, with your legs slightly apart and your bottom a little in the air. Your partner can lie down, lean close against you, gently insert two fingers (palm down) and stroke the front vaginal wall.

Sexual positions that produce “G” spot stimulation are the woman-on-top and the rear-entry positions. When a woman is on top of a man, she can control the depth and direction of her partner’s penis, and can move forward or from side-to-side to guide it to the place that feels best for her. In rear-entry positions, the penis is rubbing directly on the front wall of the vagina in which the “G” spot is located.

A man can help by moving his own body and pressing the base of his penis to make sure that its head makes full contact with the “G” spot. The result of these movements can be a series of intense orgasms for both partners.

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Skeleton Beginning at about age two, boys grow approximately 5 centimetres (2 inches) per year until the age of 13 or 14, when the sex organs begin to develop. Adolescence brings with it a rapid gain in both height and strength. The growth spurt that accompanies puberty may last for a few years, and during that time most boys gain approximately 9 centimetres (3 ½ inches) yearly. At the end of this period of growth, the bones have grown harder, more brittle, and have changed in proportion. Once the shoulders broaden, the hips look narrower by comparison – a characteristic of the adult male.

Body hair Early in puberty, pubic hair appears at the base of the penis, and after a while, it starts growing on the scrotum as well. It may also grow around the anal area. Pubic hair normally grows in an upside-down triangle on the lower part of the belly, though it may reach the navel, and may grow outwards towards the thighs. About one or two years later, hair will appear in the armpits and on the upper lip. Pubic hair is longer, coarser and curlier than hair that has been on the body since birth. It may be a lighter or darker colour than that on the head. With age, it may turn grey.

In addition to curly pubic hair, hair appears on the arms, thighs and lower legs. Hair may appear also on the chest, shoulders and back, and back of the hands. Facial hair becomes thicker and darker as a man matures. The beard and moustache may be the same colour as the hair on the head, or different.

The amount of body hair depends on racial or ethnic background and family history. Caucasian men generally have more body hair than oriental or black men; and “hairiness” runs in families.

Muscles The thighs, calves, shoulders and upper arms begin to grow broader during adolescence, and strength increases, too. A grown man’s muscles are 40 times those at birth. The main determinant of body strength is body size, and muscle itself accounts for 40 percent of total body weight.

The genitals The testes grow very slowly until about the age of 10 or 11, following which there is a considerable acceleration in growth rate and growth of the external genital organs. In the fully grown male, the testicles are usually about 3.8 centimetres (1 ½ inches) long, between 16 and 27 millilitres (½ – 1 fluid ounce) in volume, and are duskily coloured. One testicle, usually the left one, hangs lower than the other. This is to keep the testicles from crushing each other when you walk. In most men, testicles are the same size, but in a few, one may be larger than the other.

Changes to the penis begin at a later stage than for the testicles. During a growth spurt, the penis gets larger (both longer and wider) and the glans, or head, of the penis becomes more developed. A grown man’s penis is usually between 7.5 and 10 centimetres (3-4 inches) long when flaccid.

Under certain conditions, for instance coming into contact with cold water or being out during cold weather, or if the man is feeling afraid or tired, the penis can temporarily shrivel somewhat. Old age, however, can cause it to become permanently a bit smaller in size.

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